Beliefs About Your Relationship

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Instructions: for each of the following 15 statements, select the number (1 to 7) of the category that best fits how much you agree or disagree.

1. If a person has any questions about the relationship, then it means there is something wrong with it.

2. If my partner truly loved me, we would not have any quarrels.

3. If my partner really cared, he or she would always feel affection for me.

4. If my partner gets angry at me or is critical in public (or in front of the children), this indicates he or she doesn’t really love me.

5. My partner should know what is important to me without my having to tell him or her.

6. If I have to ask for something that I really want, it spoils it.

7. If my partner really cared, he or she would do what I ask.

8. A good relationship should not have any problems.

9. If people really love each other, they should not have to work on their relationship.

10. If my partner does something that upsets me, I think it is because he/she deliberately wants to hurt me.

11. When my partner disagrees with me in public (or in front of the children), I think it is a sign that he or she doesn’t care for me very much.

12. If my partner contradicts me, they think that he or she doesn’t have much respect for me.

13. If my partner hurts my feelings, I think that is because he or she is mean.

14. My partner always tries to get his/her own way.

15. My partner doesn’t listen to what I have to say.

Dr. Chris Regan, Psy.D. (310) 870-1275